All of my first five children threw temper tantrums. When my fifth baby turned fourteen months old, I found out what I needed to in order to change my parenting style and prevent any more temper tantrums from him. He was forever free of temper tantrums within a week or so of my implementing the changes. After this I used my newly found techniques with each additional baby I had, all eight of them from birth on, effectively preventing tantrums. Not one of them ever had a temper tantrum, not even the two that had ADHD, or the one of them that had very strong Oppositional Defiant Disorder. This daughter, as a young adult, stated, "I was an extremely defiant child, yet, through all the years my mother and I struggled over who was going to be in charge, I simply loved how she responded to my anger."
In helping other parents totally eliminate and prevent temper tantrums with their children, I first describe to them the difference between the two kinds of temper tantrums, Type-One and Type-Two. This is an important aspect of learning to eliminate and prevent tantrums because Type-Two tantrums need additional techniques besides the ones needed for both Type-One and Type-Two tantrums.
A Type-One temper tantrum is really just a true expression of anger that has escalated to a point of rage, perhaps to the extreme, and possibly to the maximum. This is out-of-control anger (or almost so). This kind of tantrum happens when something comes along to naturally make the child angry.
A Type-Two temper tantrum is not only an expression of anger (which might be fake, genuine, exaggerated, or unexaggerated) but it's also a conscious and deliberate attempt to manipulate or intimidate the caregiver. This type of temper tantrum occurs when a child isn't given what she or he wants.
Temper tantrum advice from the "experts" has traditionally included some aspect of ignoring the child's tantrums. This, I eventually found out, was faulty advice-but I steadfastly followed it in the beginning with my first five children. I eventually learned, after I eliminated the temper tantrums with my fifth baby, that ignoring tantrums was a portion of what caused them. In fact, it's my belief that ignoring temper tantrums pretty much guarantees they'll keep occurring. There are many other factors involved in total prevention and total elimination of tantrums from children's repertoires of behaviors, most certainly. I talk about these other factors as I present my methods, which I call, "Infant Anger Management." It all begins, however, with parents ending their "ignore-the-tantrum" behaviors.
In helping other parents totally eliminate and prevent temper tantrums with their children, I first describe to them the difference between the two kinds of temper tantrums, Type-One and Type-Two. This is an important aspect of learning to eliminate and prevent tantrums because Type-Two tantrums need additional techniques besides the ones needed for both Type-One and Type-Two tantrums.
A Type-One temper tantrum is really just a true expression of anger that has escalated to a point of rage, perhaps to the extreme, and possibly to the maximum. This is out-of-control anger (or almost so). This kind of tantrum happens when something comes along to naturally make the child angry.
A Type-Two temper tantrum is not only an expression of anger (which might be fake, genuine, exaggerated, or unexaggerated) but it's also a conscious and deliberate attempt to manipulate or intimidate the caregiver. This type of temper tantrum occurs when a child isn't given what she or he wants.
Temper tantrum advice from the "experts" has traditionally included some aspect of ignoring the child's tantrums. This, I eventually found out, was faulty advice-but I steadfastly followed it in the beginning with my first five children. I eventually learned, after I eliminated the temper tantrums with my fifth baby, that ignoring tantrums was a portion of what caused them. In fact, it's my belief that ignoring temper tantrums pretty much guarantees they'll keep occurring. There are many other factors involved in total prevention and total elimination of tantrums from children's repertoires of behaviors, most certainly. I talk about these other factors as I present my methods, which I call, "Infant Anger Management." It all begins, however, with parents ending their "ignore-the-tantrum" behaviors.
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