I:0:T During all of the forty-some years I have been parenting, the most consistent temper tantrum advice from experts has been for parents to ignore their child's tantrums. The theory behind such a technique of ignoring temper tantrums, according to my understanding, is that ignoring them prevents their validation. The parent who ignores tantrums avoids rewarding their child for them and avoids reinforcing their negative behavior with any attention.
According to such don't-reinforce-negative-behavior thinking, in such situations the underlying assumption is that a child is throwing the tantrum so as to get undeserved attention (which amounts to negative behavior), and if the parent avoids reinforcing such negative behavior, it should cease to occur, go away, and stop. Despite this theory behind ignoring tantrums, throughout the modern history of parenting advice, most experts who have recommended using this technique haven't purported that it prevents tantrums or stops them in progress.
Only two decades ago, parenting advisors still weren't putting the word prevention along with the word tantrum in the same sentence. Their advice was given really only to help parents know how to best manage and deal with temper tantrums, the same as it primarily is today. However, today's parenting advisors currently teach parents how to prevent some temper tantrums by handling children's tantrum triggers, such as hunger, frustration, and tiredness. In other words, these expert parenting advisors teach parents to prevent the hunger, frustration, and tiredness in their children. They really don't teach parents to prevent temper tantrums in spite of normal living, which can include tiredness, frustration, and hunger.
My temper tantrum prevention and elimination method is vastly different from that of others. I instruct parents in how to respond to their offspring in a way that makes it absolutely unnecessary to be vigilant for temper tantrum triggers (which are actually only anger triggers). This happens because the usual infant and childhood frustrations don't any longer trigger temper tantrums. Despite this basic theory behind the ignoring-of-tantrums technique, through the recent history of parenting advice, most experts who recommend using the technique don't claim that it will prevent or stop tantrums in progress.
I teach parents to totally, 100% eliminate temper tantrums from their children's behavioral repertoire so there are no longer any tantrums in progress to have to stop, handle, manage, or deal with. I also teach parents to consistently respond to their newborn infants in ways that the babies never develop a tantrum-throwing pattern or even of escalating when angry. I teach parents these abilities with clarity and with many examples in hopes that they will learn them quickly and easily.
According to such don't-reinforce-negative-behavior thinking, in such situations the underlying assumption is that a child is throwing the tantrum so as to get undeserved attention (which amounts to negative behavior), and if the parent avoids reinforcing such negative behavior, it should cease to occur, go away, and stop. Despite this theory behind ignoring tantrums, throughout the modern history of parenting advice, most experts who have recommended using this technique haven't purported that it prevents tantrums or stops them in progress.
Only two decades ago, parenting advisors still weren't putting the word prevention along with the word tantrum in the same sentence. Their advice was given really only to help parents know how to best manage and deal with temper tantrums, the same as it primarily is today. However, today's parenting advisors currently teach parents how to prevent some temper tantrums by handling children's tantrum triggers, such as hunger, frustration, and tiredness. In other words, these expert parenting advisors teach parents to prevent the hunger, frustration, and tiredness in their children. They really don't teach parents to prevent temper tantrums in spite of normal living, which can include tiredness, frustration, and hunger.
My temper tantrum prevention and elimination method is vastly different from that of others. I instruct parents in how to respond to their offspring in a way that makes it absolutely unnecessary to be vigilant for temper tantrum triggers (which are actually only anger triggers). This happens because the usual infant and childhood frustrations don't any longer trigger temper tantrums. Despite this basic theory behind the ignoring-of-tantrums technique, through the recent history of parenting advice, most experts who recommend using the technique don't claim that it will prevent or stop tantrums in progress.
I teach parents to totally, 100% eliminate temper tantrums from their children's behavioral repertoire so there are no longer any tantrums in progress to have to stop, handle, manage, or deal with. I also teach parents to consistently respond to their newborn infants in ways that the babies never develop a tantrum-throwing pattern or even of escalating when angry. I teach parents these abilities with clarity and with many examples in hopes that they will learn them quickly and easily.
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