How Do You Raise Happy Kids?
GO FOR YOUR GOALS - Goal Setting and Visualization for Kids
As a writer, grandmother and self-help, I am often asked by readers, "How to raise happy children?" This is near and dear to the heart of all matters of loving parent. No matter what you teach them, if we did not learn to be happy, or can not parent in a way that makes them feel happy, but it's all for nothing, right? This is a very relevant question. I was fortunate to have two children and two grandchildren happy happy. I applied some principles in the education of my children, and I see my son and daughter-in-law to apply in the education of their adorable daughters, Klara and Stina. In this article, I will share two tips I've learned along the way.
The first is the importance of happiness modeling. You can not give something that is. How can you teach children the joy if you did not? Some parents think that the love of your family means to live only for themselves, driving everywhere, cleaning up after them, and put their children's needs and desires ahead of their own. Parenting should not be short-term or cleaning restaurant or taxi service. It is for some parents. That teaches children a bad lesson.
A child who sees his father as a servant, someone whose life has meaning only by catering to their whims, learning to be selfish. He comes to believe that there are others to do his will. I have a friend who was raised like that, and she told me that when she grew up, she still had the strange sensation of "Where are the servants?" Being served was such a deep part of his childhood adjustment in adulthood was difficult for her because "officials" were absent.
Children who are raised in this manner tend to think that the world owes them a living. So get out of "doormat" mode if you are in one, is absolutely central to give your child the possibility of a smooth transition to the happy adult life.
When you take care of yourself, take time for yourself, and do things that make you happy, the child learns behaviors you. If she sees that you go for your dreams and make decisions according to their inner truth, he learns to do these things is good. On the other hand, if you leave everything to meet modeled his last dictation learns that parenting involves sacrifice and victimization. Then you can become a parent modest or go to the other end and completely abandon because parenting is seen as a sacrifice.
So to raise happy children, be good for you. Enjoy with the same respect and dignity that you treat your child. Do not let the lack of respect for you allowing you someone to be rude to their children. Take time to your creative desires and dreams. Allow some of the staff of the scheduled time each week (or day), and make sure you take it.
Let your children see that you do, and tell them why. "Mothers need time each day to relax" "Mom must have a little fun, too," or This shows your child that you value yourself, and personal time is important for the happiness of all.
The second tip that I learned to raise happy children is the enormous value of focused attention. The best way that this can have is continuous, one-to-one personal time with your child. Think about your own childhood and some of your fondest memories. Probably including you took this walk with his father, or the time you and Mom went to the restaurant for dessert.
When we set aside an hour or two to spend with our son, away from distractions and interruptions, we say is important and loved. Paying attention is much more powerful that children get the attention diffuse during cooking dinner, driving somewhere, or break talks to take calls from our mobile phone.
Children thrive on love, concentration, personal care so that the plants grow in the sunlight. Structure focused little attention every day, even if it's only for five or ten minutes. Look at your child when he speaks to you, then know that you are with him completely. In love, it is the subtle things that count.
Pay attention teaches self-esteem: the child knows that he is precious because you appreciate enough to make time for you and her, without interruption to the world at the time. That spells love, and when she knows that you love, by his actions, not his words, that brings security and compliance of the heart, the essential foundations of happiness.
In this busy world where parents work two jobs and social schedules where children can compete with beginners, it is not easy to take the time to take care of himself without interruption and time for you and your son. But happiness, nothing could be more important. Think about your schedule, which is not essential that you can cut, or moments that can be removed in vain. Use this time to be harvested right for you and your child. The happiness of his son, and, depend on it.
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Winsome Coutts holds a teacher’s certificate in education and has written hundreds of articles on self-development. She has studied with Bob Proctor and John Demartini, popular teachers featured on “The Secret” DVD. She is the passion behind the 4lifehappykids and is a parent and grandparent.
Winsome is author of “Go for Your Goals” for kids – a set of downloadable e-books that guide your child through the joyful steps of learning visualization, goal-setting and the Law of Attraction. Simple language enhanced with beautiful illustrations and worksheets make these books appealing and motivating. To learn more, visit 4lifehappykids
