Parenting experts throughout the globe have consistently failed for many decades to help the world's parents totally eliminate their children's temper tantrums. One main reason for this is that parenting experts are mostly misguided and don't understand the real cause of temper tantrums. They think that the causes of tantrums are children's lack of problem solving skills, lack of alternate ways to express their emotion, lack of ability to verbally express themselves, low frustration tolerance, determination to have things their own way, and need for attention-all of which naturally leads to tantrum experimentation.
I have learned by myself that these are not the actual causes of temper tantrums. They are, instead, the causes of the initial anger that comes before the tantrums. Repeatedly, throughout a twenty-three-year period, I've demonstrated that children's initial anger quickly dissipates without developing into tantrums if it invokes the needed responses from parents. One of the very real causes of temper tantrums is that the parent does not meet the initial anger needs of the child.
If children consistently do not have their anger needs met, they then learn to trust in that likelihood, and they tend to become predisposed to escalating quickly into temper tantrums. Conversely, if children consistently do get their anger needs met, they then learn to trust in that likelihood, and so they become predisposed not to escalate into temper tantrums. This happens when the parents demonstrate to the children that they understand the anger and will consistently respond to it the proper way.
I acquired this understanding of appropriate anger responses through my personal experience. My first five children, as babies, all threw temper tantrums, but my last eight children didn't. When I learned what to change in my anger responses when my fifth baby was fourteen months old, he stopped throwing tantrums within a week or so. I used my new techniques with my next eight children, from their births on, and not one of them ever threw a tantrum during their childhood years.
I named my techniques Infant Anger Management partly because they can be easily used to teach even newborn infants never to throw temper tantrums. When parents give up their faulty ideas they've been taught about the causes of temper tantrums and learn the functional techniques that eliminate and prevent them, there won't be any temper tantrums left.
I have learned by myself that these are not the actual causes of temper tantrums. They are, instead, the causes of the initial anger that comes before the tantrums. Repeatedly, throughout a twenty-three-year period, I've demonstrated that children's initial anger quickly dissipates without developing into tantrums if it invokes the needed responses from parents. One of the very real causes of temper tantrums is that the parent does not meet the initial anger needs of the child.
If children consistently do not have their anger needs met, they then learn to trust in that likelihood, and they tend to become predisposed to escalating quickly into temper tantrums. Conversely, if children consistently do get their anger needs met, they then learn to trust in that likelihood, and so they become predisposed not to escalate into temper tantrums. This happens when the parents demonstrate to the children that they understand the anger and will consistently respond to it the proper way.
I acquired this understanding of appropriate anger responses through my personal experience. My first five children, as babies, all threw temper tantrums, but my last eight children didn't. When I learned what to change in my anger responses when my fifth baby was fourteen months old, he stopped throwing tantrums within a week or so. I used my new techniques with my next eight children, from their births on, and not one of them ever threw a tantrum during their childhood years.
I named my techniques Infant Anger Management partly because they can be easily used to teach even newborn infants never to throw temper tantrums. When parents give up their faulty ideas they've been taught about the causes of temper tantrums and learn the functional techniques that eliminate and prevent them, there won't be any temper tantrums left.
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