Much of the time parenting "experts," which is to say people who got that way mostly by attending college and not so much by raising children, tell us that kids less than six months or a year old don't have the ability to experience real anger. These "experts" see newborns as emotionally pre-functional. They say that even if babies sound angry they really aren't. They're just instinctually communicating or something. I don't know what these parenting professionals believe begins to happen at this magical age of six months or a year that makes babies finally able to be angry when they sound angry. But I know that I disagree with their theory.
In the process of having and raising thirteen kids, I've discovered a few things about how infants function. I think newborns are real people who experience real emotions. I think they're entirely capable of feeling real anger from the moment they're born. If infants' needs aren't me, they experience very natural human anger. And that anger can and does sometimes escalate into temper tantrums. As well, infants are entirely capable of understanding their caregivers' responses to their anger, and they're easily able to understand whether or not they're getting what they need. If babies regularly don't have their anger needs met, they solidly come to trust that likelihood and become predisposed to escalate rapidly into temper tantrums. If they consistently do have their anger needs met, however, they come to trust that likelihood instead and become predisposed not to escalate into throwing temper tantrums.
My first five children, as babies, all threw temper tantrums. My last eight children didn't throw tantrums because I learned with child number five what I needed to change in my parenting style. He was fourteen months at the time, and he stopped throwing tantrums within a week of my using the new techniques, which are now part of what I call, "Infant Anger Management."
There's no scientific evidence to support the common theories that all children throw temper tantrums, or that tantrums are normal and natural in child development. There are so many theories about the causes of tantrums in children-including that brain chemicals are the cause! The most common theories, however, center around children's: inability to express themselves with words, low tolerance for frustration, lack of problem-solving skills, lack of ways to let out emotions, and need for attention. These things do not cause temper tantrums! They only cause pre-tantrum anger in the children. If parents know how to respond to pre-tantrum anger, it doesn't develop into tantrums. Children who are used to parents responding properly to their frustration angers tend to develop lots of patience and don't escalate to the point of tantrums.
The first part of my "Infant Anger Management" system is responding properly to children's and infants' pre-tantrum anger. I teach everything that parents need to know so they can totally eliminate and totally prevent tantrums in their children, even those who are ODD, ADHD, and ADD.
In the process of having and raising thirteen kids, I've discovered a few things about how infants function. I think newborns are real people who experience real emotions. I think they're entirely capable of feeling real anger from the moment they're born. If infants' needs aren't me, they experience very natural human anger. And that anger can and does sometimes escalate into temper tantrums. As well, infants are entirely capable of understanding their caregivers' responses to their anger, and they're easily able to understand whether or not they're getting what they need. If babies regularly don't have their anger needs met, they solidly come to trust that likelihood and become predisposed to escalate rapidly into temper tantrums. If they consistently do have their anger needs met, however, they come to trust that likelihood instead and become predisposed not to escalate into throwing temper tantrums.
My first five children, as babies, all threw temper tantrums. My last eight children didn't throw tantrums because I learned with child number five what I needed to change in my parenting style. He was fourteen months at the time, and he stopped throwing tantrums within a week of my using the new techniques, which are now part of what I call, "Infant Anger Management."
There's no scientific evidence to support the common theories that all children throw temper tantrums, or that tantrums are normal and natural in child development. There are so many theories about the causes of tantrums in children-including that brain chemicals are the cause! The most common theories, however, center around children's: inability to express themselves with words, low tolerance for frustration, lack of problem-solving skills, lack of ways to let out emotions, and need for attention. These things do not cause temper tantrums! They only cause pre-tantrum anger in the children. If parents know how to respond to pre-tantrum anger, it doesn't develop into tantrums. Children who are used to parents responding properly to their frustration angers tend to develop lots of patience and don't escalate to the point of tantrums.
The first part of my "Infant Anger Management" system is responding properly to children's and infants' pre-tantrum anger. I teach everything that parents need to know so they can totally eliminate and totally prevent tantrums in their children, even those who are ODD, ADHD, and ADD.
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